In the last year, I realized neither my marriage nor my job was satisfying. Jerry wasn't willing to work on our marriage. Although he won't sign separation papers, we have been living apart for over a year. In 2005 I moved to Charlotte and in September I bought a house on the southeast side.
Meanwhile at work I had reached burnout and lost all self confidence. In February I took a leave of absence from work, to spend more time with Mama during Daddy's last months, to take on major projects at home, including fixing drainage issues and building a new deck and storage shed, and to think about my job and my career direction. Daddy passed away in late April. In mid June, Mama came here for two weeks, a real joy. Also in mid June, the last major home improvement project was finished. Although I'm poorer financially for taking so much time off work, having the time to think and to heal has been priceless. My self confidence is back and I'm ready to get back to work.
This March, my sister Frances moved in with me, along with her cats Sarah and Mariah. Living with five cats can be challenging, but having my sister here is great. We complement each other: she hates housework but never tires of working in the yard. I’m an organized housekeeper, and although I want the yard to be beautiful, my allergies make me miserable if I spend much time outdoors. Together we have the best of both worlds.
Now that Jerry and I are apart, Kerry and I have been spending a lot of time together. He’s been my best male friend since I was 22. We can talk about anything and everything. Once we talked on the phone for 4 ½ hours. I’m not sure if he’s "husband material" yet, but we’ll always be "really good friends", best friends, of this I’m sure. His daughter Melissa and I get along great. We especially delight in ganging up on Kerry. Melissa will be 16 in December, and is a terrific, fun, well-brought-up young lady. I love her a lot.
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